“Most Chinese parents, no matter where they are in the world, want their kids to bring home a mate of: * Chinese ethnicity (trade-offs are tolerated in some families, but rare–however, likelihood of acceptance increases…
But these days fairy-tale endings come in all shapes and sizes. It’s okay for the princess to end up with the price, it’s okay for her to end up with the footman, and it’s also okay for her to end up on her own. It’s okay for her to end up with another princess, or with six cats, or to decide she wants to be a prince. None of those make her any more or less a feminist. It’s about finding out who you are and what you want, and then being true to it.
— Sarah Haywood, The Cactus
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